Reactivity vs Responsiveness
Channel: Simply Always Awake
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[0:00] Non-reactivity or equanimity
[0:03] doesn't mean not having good boundaries.
[0:06] Uh it doesn't mean not having boundaries
[0:07] at all, of course.
[0:09] But, specific to
[0:12] having good boundaries,
[0:13] what I find is when reactivity lessens,
[0:16] or you could talk in terms of fetters,
[0:18] when those fetters break,
[0:20] fetters four and five,
[0:22] what happens typically is people have
[0:23] much better boundaries. Um
[0:26] or
[0:27] they were already aware of the
[0:28] boundaries, but now they
[0:30] have no hesitation in enforcing their
[0:31] own boundaries.
[0:33] And the statement of boundary can be
[0:35] very simple, very matter-of-fact. It's
[0:37] not a big deal. It's not a big blowout.
[0:40] Um
[0:41] it it doesn't necessarily come from
[0:42] overt anger.
[0:44] Uh it just comes from a statement of
[0:46] what's right. [clears throat]
[0:47] What's right for you. Uh
[0:49] and so, what this points to is that a
[0:51] lot of times what reactions are are not
[0:53] what we think they are.
[0:54] There are overt outward reactions, of
[0:56] course, where we react in like
[0:59] disproportionate upset or anger over
[1:01] something, or whatever.
[1:03] But, there's also a lot of internal
[1:05] reactions, or kind of latent reactions,
[1:07] or suppressive type reactions, which
[1:10] means that we suppress our own um
[1:13] uh normal react-
[1:15] uh responses to t